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Hope for the best, plan for the worse
“Another way to be prepared is to think negatively. Yes, I’m a great optimist, but when trying to make a decision, I often think of the worst case scenario. I call it ‘the eaten by wolves factor.’ If I do something, what’s the most terrible thing that could happen? Would I be eaten by wolves? One thing that makes it possible to be an optimist, is if you have a contingency plan for when all hell breaks loose. There are a lot of things I don’t worry about, because I have a plan in place if they do.”
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
Commitment Phobia
Couldn’t have said it better – Thanks Hugh.
Ouch. This is one of those that you’d think, but never, ever in a million years say to someone.
Let’s face it, sometimes there’s just something holding you back. It’s not that you’re not in love. It’s not that you’re not compatible. It’s not that you’re not happy.
But on occasion, you see a side to someone’s personality that just terrifies you. It’s the monster that is scary enough that you take pause and think…..
2011 in review
Daily Life Lately
Thanks to F! I’m in my Twenties for the graphic
Why is loving your job considered “Drinking the Kool-aid”?
Lately I’ve been getting mixed signals from friends, peers and select family that admitting that you love what you are doing for a living and for whom you work for might not be such a good thing. I’ve heard the term, “drinking the Kool-aid” on at least five occasions in the last couple of weeks whenever I start talking about work and how I feel about it.
Up until the last two weeks when I’ve had to deal with my own personal drama, I have loved walking into the office each morning. I’m not a morning person by any means of the definition; but when I wake up in the morning I feel a surge of excitement and joy at the fact that I’m going to do something that I love doing.
I know it’s no longer fashionable to be loyal to your employer and that employers for a majority of US citizens might not be worthy of loyalty; however, I feel differently. The folks who lead the organization I work for are honest, hard-working, caring individuals. While there is always a barrier with most business relationships to keep work matters related to work and personal matters to personal; they try to offer more.
While I may not chose to cross those barriers due to my own beliefs; I am appreciative of the fact that they are willing to try and see all their employees as individuals and not just “employees”. After working years for a large organization that on more occasions than I can count never saw their employees as anything other than “numbers”; I can’t tell you how much I appreciate working with the polar opposite.
Not only am I getting an opportunity to work on something bigger than myself, to learn daily and to work with some of the brightest minds I’ve encountered in 20 plus years; I feel committed to the cause of the company I work for. Heck, I’m committed to the people I work for and with at this company. I’m emotionally invested in our mutual success and actually care about them all.
So to me loving your job doesn’t mean that you see life with “tinted glasses” and a “glitter and puppies” perspective. It also doesn’t mean that you like every moment of the duties you are responsible for daily. What it means to me is that the great and good portions totally outweigh the negatives.
I chose to see that people are trying to evolve to be better people, leaders, managers and role models for all of us who work together. Seeing folks take the extra moment to not be decisive solely on an emotional response is a big motivator for me and allows me to strive to be a better person, employee, and peer. Watching folks learn and watching the “A – HA!” moments occur has been my drug lately, all the more enjoyable as I’m not sure everyone knows that they are sharing that moment.
Daily I have a resurge of hope for what my future will be with the team I am working with. What I see daily is the growth and evolution of each person I work with. As Randy Pausch said, “Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you expected.” I see the people around me growing as individuals and I share their excitement.
It all of that means “I’m drinking the Kool-aid”, then I willing accept the statement as a positive one for me. It’s not a cult or brainwashing that compels me to share my joy about my job. It’s the folks around me who are striving to be better with me.
Minimizing Regret
Thinking about life lately and I keep coming back to solid basics that I have decided to live my life by. These include deciding to never live life in passive mode, never sitting back and just letting life happen to me.
I want to live a life with minimum regret. Thinking that I can’t be the only one who has this philosophy I Googled to see who else might share my view. Color me surprised when the first link I found was a video interview with Jeff Bezos on living with a framework of Minimizing Regret.
So here’s to letting those around me who impact me know it. Here’s to telling people you love them while you have the opportunity. Here’s to grabbing for the brass ring daily, to reaching for the stars and working your butt off on a goal. Here’s to living my life to it’s fullest.
…” guess it comes down to a simple choice, really. Get busy living or get busy dying.”- Andy Dufresne – Shawshank Redemption
Sharing
For as long as I can remember I was schooled and saw others schooled in the art of sharing. When my son was younger I can remember reminding him to share his toys with other children. Extra piece of food at a meal? Share it. See someone who needs something you have? Share it. It’s something I always believed helped make us better people in the long run.
Now as an adult I realize that society has changed and sharing is now more suspect than not.
So why now am I even bothering to keep doing so? Like most of the living I have had decades of life altering experiences , many heart wrenching life stopping moments and every thing that can be experience between. I recently decided to change my life in more ways then one.
I changed my lifestyle to a more healthful one, changed my personal life to leave behind baggage I’ve held on to way too long, changed my career path and decided to expand my horizons about how I define sharing.
So what is the definition of sharing?
- To divide and parcel out in shares; apportion.
- To participate in, use, enjoy, or experience jointly or in turns.
- To relate (a secret or experience, for example) to another or others.
- To accord a share in (something) to another or others.
Basically for me sharing is the new way I tithe back to society. I use to tithe to the religious organization I was reared under and with. Then as I became more aware I tithed to the local homeless shelters and food banks. Then domestic abuse shelters and finally I found what works best for me.
Everyday I try to tithe 10% of my waking hours and a 10% of my income to those around me. It might be the down on their luck couple at Circle K without enough gas money, it might be part of the lunch I brought, it might be the smile I share but basically it’s something I offer and experience daily.
Sharing your smile, lunch, a book or just a joke which can brighten your day more than you realize. So what if occasionally you encounter nothing but negative around you and feel like not bothering. Share something and feel the difference around you!
Here’s to the power of sharing!
Recent discovery
I was just cruising the web and found Hugh MacLeod’s gallery again. It’s been a couple of years since I first saw his work so finding it again last night felt like a new discovery all over.
I’ll share one of his “scribbles” with you here. Check out all his recent work from SXSW 2010, I really liked the US map as I’m a true “yankee “but now live in what he refers to as the “boring” part of the states. (I don’t disagree).
Check out his site here:
http://gapingvoidgallery.com/
Mind Reading (Neural Decoding) Goes Mainstream
For the past two months I’ve been running a large project for the world’s largest provider of higher education and have not really had a lot of time to post.
During that time I kept seeing signs of what I call the start of the human-machine convergence. Yes, I know there are precedents for this and these are not the “true first signs”.
I’m interested for another reason, the way it is being marketed. For some reason it’s being commercialize this holiday season. Several “toys” are being promoted to consumers that allow brain reading to control objects in front of you.
Mattel and StarWars Science are both offering these toys at your local Walmart or Target. But good luck finding them, even with a $100+ price tag they appear to have sold out.
I don’t have the time to post all of my thoughts, and came across this article below that sums up what I was missing above. Have fun and enjoy the read, let me know your thoughts too!
Mind Reading (Neural Decoding) Goes Mainstream | h+ Magazine.
Other Resources:
Thought Translator Knows Vowels from Consonants
http://www.technologyreview.com/blog/editors/24279/
Neuroscience 2009
http://www.sfn.org/am2009/
Brain scanners can tell what you’re thinking about
http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg20427323.500-brain-scanners-can-tell-what-youre-thinking-about.html
NeuroSky
http://www.neurosky.com/
Emotiv Systems
http://emotiv.com/
Opportunities in Neuroscience for Future Army Applications
http://www.nap.edu/catalog.php?record_id=12500
Toyota Unveils Wheelchair Propelled by Thoughts Alone
http://www.fastcompany.com/blog/clay-dillow/culture-buffet/mobility-mind-control-toyota-unveils-wheelchair-propelled-thoughts-a
Forbidden City, Beijing, China
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